Better Sex
Sex, like most other
functions of our body is a normal process. As other functions, like for
example, the digestion, can be upset by factors like a bad mood, stress or
similar such things, so can the sexual function be disturbed by a whole lot of
factors. These may not necessarily involve the anatomy but instead it’s the
mind, which makes the difference.
If sex is allowed to happen naturally, in a relaxed way, our bodies will respond normally without any conscious effort on our part.
There are a wide variety of problems or situations that can upset the normal sexual responsiveness, most of them, fortunately, can be helped in a positive manner by understanding on our part. Here are a few of the most common amongst them and ways to improve:
If sex is allowed to happen naturally, in a relaxed way, our bodies will respond normally without any conscious effort on our part.
There are a wide variety of problems or situations that can upset the normal sexual responsiveness, most of them, fortunately, can be helped in a positive manner by understanding on our part. Here are a few of the most common amongst them and ways to improve:
- Misunderstanding and/or lack of
information about sex :Its indeed one of the most telling ironies that Sex,
despite being one of the most commonly discussed topic in our lives and in
the media, there is a surprising lack of correct information about ‘What
to Expect and How to Act’.
Those images of the ‘Perfect Macho Man and The Perfect Sensual Woman’ on the TV and in the Magazines make us feel that Sex instead of being a perfectly normal natural and enjoyable thing, is an ‘Act to be Performed to Perfection’. All this does it to add to the confusion and leads to unrealistic fears, expectations and fantasies.
- Bad feelings about Sex and its
consequences -
- Fear of pregnancy; Fear of pain;
Fear of being caught/ heard/ or interrupted.
- Performance Anxiety-Fear of failing
to perform well.
- Fear of losing control (during
orgasm) and /or becoming vulnerable.
- Looking unattractive during the
climax.
- Bad feelings about yourself or
your body like, feeling that the body is unattractive. Feelings that I am
not successful (low self-esteem).
- Problems in relationship –
Anger/resentment against the partner should be resolved as it can decrease the performance and pleasure while having sex. - Unsuitable circumstances –
While a ‘Quickie’ sometimes can be fun! But normally Good Sex requires a relaxed mind and body. Too much of a hurry, tiredness or preoccupation can rob you of the pleasures of Sex. - Performance anxiety –
This is one of the most significant problems in the way of Good Sex. We often forget that Sex is something that comes naturally to all of us; instead, we seem to view ourselves as performers who have to complete an act to perfection. - Spectator role –
Quite often we start observing ourselves as an audience, instead of really participating in it. – We observe ourselves ‘doing the act’, as if on stage (now coming, now coming...., so again it doesn't, I knew it…etc.).
How to
Improve?
Like a breath of fresh
AIR improves your mood, the three key elements for improving your sexual
performance are as simple and as effective as the A.I.R.
- AVOID SPECTATORING
- IMPROVE COMMUNICATION
- REMOVE MISUNDERSTANDING
Avoid spectatoring:
Remember that you are not a spectator of an act, you are the act itself, and you are the participant. You are not there to critically analyze it and constantly to measure your efficiency. You are there to ‘Let Go’ and enjoy.
Enjoy the interaction and don’t aim or worry about the performance. Enjoy caressing, touching your partner (anywhere on the body). It’s nice to touch and feel close to your partner.
Break the cycle of watching/worrying/and further reducing the response.
Improve communication
Communication is a vital part of having Good Sex. Remember "Sex is as much between the Ears, as it is, between the Legs". Good communication with your partner can make the difference between having Sex ‘for the sake of it’ and having ‘a really good time’.
Communicate verbally/non-verbally. Tell your partner where else do you want, to be touched-how much and for how long. Tell him/her when it’s pleasurable and also when it hurts. Relax pleasantly and enjoy this without worrying about the ultimate. Enjoy in different positions, sometimes-female superior positions can be an easy position.
Remove Misunderstanding
A misunderstanding between the partners can really affect the sexual relationship badly. The clearer both are about each other and Sex the better it is. A feeling that something important needs to be sorted out before going further should not be overlooked.
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