Foreplay
Foreplay is that *Thing* you’re meant to do before you get down to
business.
Why am I telling you this?
I don’t know. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that a recent
survey found that 70% of Indians have little or no idea about what foreplay is
or rather, what it has the potential to be.
For the
uninitiated, foreplay consists of all the actions involved in the seduction of
a partner;
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Kissing,
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Caressing,
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Stroking,
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Nibbling,
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Sucking,
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Kneading,
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Massaging,
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Nuzzling,
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And yeah the
list goes on.
In short,
it’s the lead up to, and the big fat line between ordinary and mind-blowing
sex.
Foreplay is
not only fun, it’s also essential for the creation of a mood. Unlike men, who
are visual creatures and can get turned on by the mere sight of a woman’s naked
body, women respond to sounds, touch and most importantly, to suggestion.
Hence, foreplay is more about teasing suggestion than overt sexual gestures. A
woman who is not aroused will find sex a painful and unpleasant experience and
so it’s important for your man to take his time during foreplay to get you
ready for what’s to follow. Similarly, if you want to come away feeling smugly
like you was the best he’s ever had; you need to spend more time on perfecting
the art of foreplay.
Few great
foreplay moves
(Guaranteed
to lead to the best sex of your life!)
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Prolong the
‘making out’. Kiss,
cuddle, or even play around. Giggle, laugh and tussle in bed, on the sofa or
wherever you are. Don’t get all serious and hot and heavy too fast. When you can
look into each others eyes, with your hair all tousled, and your cheeks flushed
from giggling, sex is a hundred times more beautiful.
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Massage each
other. Remember it’s about the
relaxation and the unwinding of the muscles. Let your partner feel the stress
of his/her day melt away under the skill of your fingers. Only when you feel
that they are in that nice intoxicated state of comfort, do you snap them out
of it with something more ahem…unexpected!
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Zero in on
all your partners erogenous zones. To put it simply, pamper those places on your lover’s body
that gives them most pleasure. Tease, touch, kiss, nuzzle or lick, but keep
them wanting more. Don’t make any sexual overtures yet. Suggestion is the
sexiest part of sex! For instance, if you’re kissing your lover’s feet, move
onto the inside of the ankle and calf. Nuzzling, softly biting, licking and
kissing the ears, nape of the neck, behind the knees and the belly works
wonders because of the ultra sensitive nature of these parts.
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The
chest/breasts can be fondled and kissed to great advantage! You can even be inventive and use props like feathers or silk
scarves to blindfold or tantalize your partner.
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A last but
not least word of advice; Before you embark on this wonderful journey, set the mood by turning
down the lights, lighting some candles and playing soft music. Wear clothes
that caress and cling and wow your lover like he’s never seen before!
Learn to Know About Foreplay
¬ Foreplay
is a crucial part of the sexual act. Done correctly, foreplay prepares the body
for sex, it prepares the mind for sex, it builds anticipation, desire,
intrigue, and excitement, it intensifies a sexual session, it makes sex more
comfortable and more enjoyable, it helps to solidify your relationship, it
increases intimacy, it lets your lady know you care about her, it increases the
chance for more frequent and more passionate sex, and it increases the chance
for orgasm. Heck, foreplay even helps to burn up calories, burning around 7.5
calories every 5 minutes or so.
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Most women need it. The way I see
it, foreplay isn't optional. It isn't a luxury to indulge in only when you have
enough time - especially when you plan to engage in intercourse. The woman
needs time for her vagina to prepare itself for penetration and she needs time
to get in the right frame of mind to make the sex better for both of you. Give
her the time to prepare, and she will enjoy the experience on a higher level -
and so will you, guys. Instead of diving right for her crotch, spend some time
kissing her, touching her, and talking to her. This will help build
anticipation and desire.
¬ Most
women prefer it. I think most women prefer sexual encounters that connect their
body, their hearts, and their mind. Women want men to connect to their whole
being, not just their vaginas. Their genitals are wired to their hearts and
their mind. Make love with her heart and mind first. Reach in and touch her on
the inside before you touch her on the outside. I think your lovemaking will
reach new depths when you learn to (and take the time to) penetrate the whole
woman, instead of just her vagina. In one survey, women were asked, "What
part of your relationship would you want your partner to pay more attention
to?" More than 65% of these women answered foreplay and only 4 percent
said orgasm.
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shows your lady that you care about her pleasure, too, and not just your own.
Not enough foreplay makes it seem like you don't care about pleasing her and
only care about your own pleasure. Show her that you are a man who not only
knows how to, but desires to please his lady.
¬ In
one study, over 700 nurses reported that lack of foreplay is the highest ranked
reason for ladies not reaching orgasm. You really care about your lady's
pleasure, don't you? While many experts claim that we don't "give"
ladies an orgasm, we can sure help give her what she needs in the form of
foreplay to help encourage her orgasm.
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name practically suggests that FORE play
must always be a preliminary to other activities, such as intercourse. I
believe it would become a little boring and predictable if foreplay lead to
intercourse every time. Foreplay can stand alone. It's a pleasurable activity
in itself. Try having a night of just oral sex or other activities with no
intercourse. Have you ever done this before? Leaving intercourse out of sex can
be a new experience. For most couples, making love has always included intercourse.
Not engaging in intercourse allows you to explore a fuller range of sexual
possibilities and pleasures that can be overlooked in the rush to get to
intercourse and orgasm. This pattern of foreplay always having to lead to
intercourse is destructive because you tend to become focused on where you are
going rather than the pleasure of the moment of being where you are right now.
¬ In
the beginning of a relationship, couples tend to spend lots of time in
foreplay. In fact, they usually tend to spend more time on foreplay than they
do on intercourse. Once we've been in the relationship for awhile, having sex
can easily become a pattern of hurried foreplay so we can get to the
intercourse quicker. The pleasures of foreplay - the touching, the kissing, the
caressing, and the holding are quickly forgotten.
¬ One
of the biggest complaints from ladies is that their men don't spend enough time
on foreplay before sex. One of the biggest complaints from men is that their
ladies don't want to have sex nearly often enough. What we need to understand
as men is why lots of foreplay is so important. Through having a proper
understanding and execution of foreplay, you will give your lady the foreplay
that she wants and needs and you will be rewarded with the more frequent and
higher quality sex that you want.
¬ Studies
have shown that after 21 minutes or longer of physical foreplay, 92.3% of women
will orgasm at some point during your lovemaking session.
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The best foreplay takes many forms,
and it begins long before you ever get into the bedroom. It is always present,
anytime you are together with your partner, not just in the bedroom, right
before you have sex.
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