Becoming Orgasmic Women
Ø Take charge. Many women are taught that orgasms are out of their hands. If
they have a lousy lover, then they are out of luck. Who is in charge here? You
have to take charge. You are responsible for your own orgasm. Sure, a skillful
lover is most definitely a plus, but not necessary for you to orgasm. Take
matters into your own hands, figuratively and literally. You don't have to rely
on anyone else for your orgasms.
Ø Get to know your body and your sexual response. Inorgasmia is 5 times higher in
women who have never masturbated before and know very little about their body.
Out of approximately 10% of women who have never had an orgasm, 95% have never
masturbated. The best way to learn to orgasm is to masturbate.
Ø Relax. Relax and enjoy yourself. Don't pressure yourselves to have an
orgasm. You can actually stop yourself from having an orgasm by trying too
hard. You'd do better to focus on the journey, rather than the destination. If
you take your time and focus on the journey - on the erotic sensations you are
receiving, then you will experience more pleasure, more enjoyment, and a
greater likelihood that you will reach orgasm.
Ø Breathe. Concentrate on deep, slow, even breaths. Many women hold their
breath as they are stimulated. This can hinder the orgasmic process in some
women.
Ø Physical Focus. Focus on stimulating your clitoris. Did you know that 2/3 of
women do not orgasm through vaginal penetration alone? Most women require
additional stimulation, such as clitoral stimulation, to orgasm.
Ø Mental Focus. Your thinking can influence your orgasmic concentration. If you
have a negative or defeated attitude - if you're too busy thinking, This is
never going to work!" - then you're right. This will work against you. You
aren't in the right orgasm-producing state of mind. Think positively.
Concentrate on the erotic sensations you are experiencing.
Ø Vibrator. Many women who have difficulty in achieving orgasm experience
their first one with a vibrator. Vibrators can provide the consistent rhythm
and stimulation that orgasm may require. While many vibrators are penis shaped,
and therefore suggest insertion into the vagina, your best bet is to focus on
the outside, by holding or rubbing the vibrator against your clitoris, as most
women do not orgasm from vaginal penetration alone - even with a vibrator.
Ø PC Muscles. Some women claim they got their first orgasm after
strengthening their PC muscles and then activating them during sex.
Ø Let Yourself Go. Many women who struggle to reach orgasm tend to remain
passive during stimulation. They don't help their bodies shift into orgasm. You
can't will an orgasm to happen, but you can encourage it or resist it. When you
get to the point where you feel an orgasm is right around the corner, then let
yourself go and encourage your orgasm by getting active and thus pulling your
orgasmic triggers: when you breathe, breathe heavily; when you start moaning,
don't resist it - moan loudly; when you feel like thrusting your hips, really
buck them; toss your head back; scream out in ecstasy; point your toes; grab
your breasts; contort your face; clamp your eyes shut; flex your vaginal
muscles. Sometimes, you may have to help your body take over and shift into
orgasm.
Ø Practice. Practice makes perfect, you know. Besides, it's a heck of a lot
of fun, too!
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