MYTHS
2. Simultaneous orgasms are a must for
sexual satisfaction.
3. Only men have wet dreams.
4. Wet dreams are sexual disorders.
5. Venereal disease is cured if the man has
sex with a virgin.
6. Frequent masturbation makes the penis
shrink.
7. Special food and exercise will make the
penis grow big.
8. Masturbation leads to nervous breakdown.
9. Vasectomy makes a man impotent.
10. Men have stronger sexual urges than
women.
11. Anal sex is only practised by
homosexuals.
12. A normal man should be able to get an
erection whenever he wants it.
13. A man is not a male if he cannot get a
penile erection.
14. Menopause puts an end to a women’s sex
life.
15. Imparting sex education to youngsters
will lead them to promiscuity.
16. A woman should orgasm with intercourse
alone.
17. A woman must bleed when she has sex for
the first time.
18. Sex during menstruation is unhygienic
and unsafe.
19. A girl cannot get pregnant the first
time she has sexual intercourse.
20. A female cannot get pregnant while she
is breastfeeding.
21. There is an absolutely “safe” period for
sexual intercourse during which intercourse cannot cause pregnancy.
22. Having a male withdraw his penis from a
female’s vagina before he ejaculates or “comes” (coition) is a good way to
prevent pregnancy.
23. You’re a homosexual if you’ve had sex
with, or even had a “sexy” dream about, someone of the same sex.
24. Having an orgasm while asleep, a
“nocturnal” orgasm, is a sign of sexual problems.
25. Feeling that the female partner will be
more aroused and satisfied with a larger penis.
FACTS
1. Women do not ejaculate during sexual
intercourse. Probably, the lubrication that accompanies the excitement stage is
mistaken for discharge.
2. Simultaneous orgasms are not a compulsion.
3. Women also experience nocturnal orgasms.
4. Nocturnal emissions (wet dreams) are not
a sign of sexual disorder. They are part of normal sexual process.
5. Not true. On the contrary the venereal
disease sufferer will transmit the disease.
6. Even when a person indulges in
masturbation frequently, the penis never shrinks and becomes small. Once any
part or organ of the human body has attained its maximum size, it will never
become small unless it is partially or fully cut off surgically or accidentally.
7. Not true. Whatever nutrition is good for
other body parts is also good for sex organs.
8. Not true. Masturbation is a normal
physiological activity.
9. Sterilisation (vasectomy in males and
tubectomy in females) does not reduce the desire and performance. In fact, by
removing the fear of pregnancy, sex can be more relished.
10. Not true. Sexual urge is equal in both
the sexes.
11. Anal sex may be practiced by
heterosexuals also.
12. A man has an erection of the penis just by
desiring it. The entire physiological sexual response should be gone through
before an erection occurs.
13. The masculinity of a person is not
judged by the ability to get an erection. There are other criteria.
14. Menopause is not the end of a woman’s sexual
life. It is just the end of her reproduction only.
15. Talking to youngsters on sex or
imparting sex education will not lead to promiscuity. Even without sex
education, people indulge in promiscuity. In fact, more married people have
promiscuous relations than young ones. Educating the young on sex and sexual
behaviour helps them to develop a healthy and positive attitude towards
sexuality. More importantly, better interpersonal relationship will help lead a
more harmonious marital and family life.
16. The majority of women can’t orgasm
without intercourse alone, regardless of how big or large the penis is, because
it does not provide sufficient stimulation to the clitoris. Many couples
struggle needlessly, believing that one of them is doing something wrong if
they are not able to achieve this. Using positions that stimulate the clitoris
during intercourse may work for some. You can also stimulate the clitoris with
a finger or a vibrator during intercourse or give your woman her satisfaction
by pleasuring her orally or manually.
17. The hymen is not a test of virginity.
Bleeding usually occurs due to rupture of the hymen in a virgin. However, the
hymen may be absent congenitally or may be ruptured during sporting activities,
vigorous exercises or with the use of tampons. So, a virgin may not necessarily
bleed during her first sexual intercourse.
18. Menstrual material is sterile and sex
during menstruation is absolutely safe, if both partners so desire. In fact,
many couples find sex more enjoyable during this time as there is no fear of a
possible pregnancy and enhanced pleasurable sensations promoted by moist vagina.
19. Girls can and often become pregnant the
first time they have intercourse.
20. Although a woman may not menstruate when
breast feeding, she can still become pregnant.
21. While a female is less likely to get
pregnant during certain periods of her menstrual cycle, there is no
“absolutely” safe period. There is always a chance she will get pregnant.
22. Withdrawal is not effective way to prevent
pregnancy. Even before ejaculation as the penis leaks semen, that contains
thousands of sperms.
23. Sex play and sexual dreams with friends
of either gender is common during preadolescence and early adolescent years.
Such experiences should not be interpreted as proof of any long term, adult
sexual orientation.
24. Having nocturnal orgasms is normal,
healthy, natural and nothing to worry about.
25. Most penises when erect are of more or
less the same size. A large penis is not necessarily essential to sexually
satisfy the female partner. Only, outer 2 inches of vagina is sensitive to
touch, and so a penis of even this length is enough for stimulation of the
female partner. Penis need not to be absolutely straight when erect.
Other Myths and Facts
Women can't get pregnant if a man pulls out
v The “pull-out” method, also known as the
rhythm method, is potentially the worst possible form of birth control. Men do
not always know when ejaculatory fluid begins to seep out -- and even ahead of
a perceptible orgasm, pre-ejaculate (which includes sperm) is released and is
enough to get a woman pregnant. In fact, one in five couples who use this
method as their only form of birth control over the course of a year will end
up pregnant.
Fantasizing about someone else is a bad
thing
v A large part of the sexual experience
starts with your brain, not your body, and sometimes your brain can wander. If
you are committed to your lady, and your relationship is in a good place, it’s
OK to think about Julia or Aishu every now and then.
Premature ejaculation only affects young men
v Some men do find that premature
ejaculation begins at the onset of sexual maturity, but plenty of men also find
it to be an issue later in life. In fact, premature ejaculation affects 30% of
men at sometime in their lives.
v Often, early ejaculation in men who are
in their 30s or older is a co-symptom of Erectile dysfunction or fatigue, poor
cardiovascular conditioning, depression, anxiety, or neurological symptoms.
Oral sex is safer than other methods of sex
v From teenagers, oral sex seems to have
the stigma of a “free pass” as far as sexual relationships go. Yes, it does
count as sex, and yes, you can get a sexually transmitted disease from oral
sex. There is still an exchange of fluids where diseases can enter your body
through sores or small cuts in your mouth and throat.
Certain foods can put you in the mood
v Named for the Greek goddess of
sensuality and love, aphrodisiacs are said to put you in the mood. While
oysters, dark chocolate, strawberries might make you feel l’amour, there is no
scientific evidence to support the validity of aphrodisiacs. However, while
there is no science to foods and/or herbs causing arousal, a certain food can
trigger an erotic memory or desire in your own mind -- so in a sense, we all
have our own aphrodisiacs.
Size matters
v Size is not a barometer for manhood.
True sexual enthusiasm far outweighs any gifted parts. And contrary to another
popular myth, the size of your member has nothing to do with the size of your
hands or feet.
Viagra is the answer?
v While many people believe Viagra is the
best or only treatment for men with erectile dysfunction, the truth is that for
many men these drugs are not a viable option or they simply are not effective. Viagra
is only a temporary fix to a problem that may have other underlying health
causes that should be addressed by a qualified physician. In addition, many men
with health conditions, including hypertension and diabetes, cannot take oral
prescriptions due to serious potential side effects or contraindications with
other medications. For men who cannot use Viagra, there are a number of other
options including herbal medicines and Alternative medicines helps to cure
Erectile dysfunctions.
After a certain age, sex is no longer
important
v Sex is an important aspect of physical
and emotional health and well-being for adults of all ages, even those in their
golden years. While some people believe that a decrease in libido is a natural
part of aging, a loss of sexual desire can be related to a number of other
factors including hormone deficiencies, depression, anxiety disorders, side
effects of medication, changes to a relationship, communication barriers, or
loss of a spouse or partner.
Men have more sexual urges than women
v Though many men would have you believe
they’re ready to go 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, the truth is that men
experience daily fluctuations in libido, as do women. A man’s readiness to hop
in the sack can be impacted by many of the same factors that impact a woman’s
level of desire, including diet, sleep, health, stress, medical conditions,
self-confidence, and relationship disharmony
Great sex comes naturally
v The physical chemistry you see on TV and
in the movies suggests that when two lovers meet, sparks fly and mind-blowing
sex naturally follows. In the real world, it’s not always that easy. The human
body doesn’t come with an instruction manual. The “tricks of the trade” that
pleased a former partner do not always translate with someone new. Good
communication is the key to good sex, as is a willingness to be open to trying
new techniques and positions to find out what each partner finds pleasurable.
It can be a little awkward at first to over communicate during sex, but think
about the outcome: a partner who knows how to do it right every time.
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Some Common
Misconceptions about Sex
Some Common
Misconceptions about Sex
- The penis can become erect at very
early stage, especially in a young man. This does not mean that he is
necessarily ready the for intercourse and he may start too soon - before
his partner feels ready. She may become anxious as she feels she is
keeping him waiting.
- Vaginal lubrication may remain
hidden especially in lying down positions. Both partners may assume she is
not responding, when in fact she is. Penis gives a more obvious signal
which the vagina may not.
- Arousal comes in waves in both the
man and the woman. This is normal. The decline doesn't mean that something
is wrong.
- Premature ejaculation (coming too
soon, before the partner is ready) is normal in young men, particularly
when very much aroused. Control comes with learning and practice.
- Many women may not have orgasm but
are fully responsive. This doesn’t mean that they are frigid.
- Early sexual relationships may not
have orgasms in women. Partners need not worry. Anxiety further inhibits
it.
- The husband snoring one minute
after ejaculating can produce resentment if the wife is still feeling the
need for intimacy. The men have their refractory period (time during which
sexual arousal is difficult) very fast. Woman need not feel upset (as if
being used as a sleeping pill) - you can wake up your husband sometimes
and let him know.
